And then there is the question of riches v wealth. I have heard people say that riches don;t make you happy but wealth does. In this case “riches” means all the material things.

I [...]]]> Many people say that they want to be wealthy, yet I find that this means many different things to different people.

And then there is the question of riches v wealth. I have heard people say that riches don;t make you happy but wealth does. In this case “riches” means all the material things.

I have also heard the two words used the other way around, and it really doesn’t matter which one you use. The bottom line is what does it means to you, and how do you achieve it?

I do believe that whatever material wealth you achieve, however many houses you own or businesses you run, if that is all you have you will still have a very empty life.

To me wealth is very close to abundance, and this is something we can all tap into.There are no real limitations in this world, only those that we perceive.

And ultimately what we all seek, if we are really honest, is love. In my experience the people who are happiest have an abundance of love in their lives. And when they have that they don’t “need” anything else.

And you know what the good news is? You don’t need anyone else.
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Personally speaking I love hugs. I love to hug and be hugged and can find it quite odd when I’m suddenly in an environment where people are more reserved in their [...]]]> So, what were your responses to the last post? I have to say a huge thank you for all the comments, made great reading.

Personally speaking I love hugs. I love to hug and be hugged and can find it quite odd when I’m suddenly in an environment where people are more reserved in their greetings. I guess I am lucky because in most of the circles I move in hugging is commonplace.

In fact I realised at the end of my last relationship that one of the things that was missing for me was hugs, they were pretty rare. Not that hugs are limited to close relationships or friendships, it is certainly becoming more acceptable to hug when you meet someone or say goodbye.

And best of all, did you know that hugs are scientifically proven to be good for you?

Hugging increases oxytocin levels, which not only increases bonding, it reduces stress hormones and blood pressure.

So if your heart doesn’t cry out for hugs, hug for your health!

I think it’s true, hugging does give a deeper connection to a person.Though if you are going to hug, do it properly and from the heart. None of this standing 3 feet away and putting your arms around the other persons shoulders. That is just going through the motions and is very inauthentic. Do you want to come across as a fake? How do you think the other person will feel? It’s the hugging equivalent of a limp handshake!

Yes there are situations when it’s not appropriate, and culture will influence this. Often in a business situation you will not hug when you first meet someone, though often it becomes acceptable once you know each other, though I find many people still don’t due to the environment.

Certainly in a social situation I might not hug a new person hello, but I will hug them goodbye if they are a hug type person.

Go on, go and hug somebody today

By asking “What Do I Love?” or “What would I love?” you bring the attention of your mind to that thing.

So whenever you are faced [...]]]> ..is a question that easily refocuses your mind. We hear so often that focus creates reality and this is a really quick and easy way to shift your focus.

By asking “What Do I Love?” or “What would I love?” you bring the attention of your mind to that thing.

So whenever you are faced with a dilemma or something not quite going as you would like, take a moment to step back and ask yourself “What Would I Love?”, and go with what comes immediately, don’t “think” about it too much. What pops into your head first will be the true answer.

Once you have this consider it, and how you can act so that you move towards it as your target, your end result.

Even if you don’t know “how” it doesn’t matter, focus on what you really want to happen. This is the first step towards creating the outcome that you want.

And it can apply to any aspect of your life and any situation.

Happiness is a spiritual state that arises when we focus on the real and permanent and take our attention away from the fleeting and impermanent. Everything will [...]]]> ‘Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace and gratitude.’ – Denis Waitley

Happiness is a spiritual state that arises when we focus on the real and permanent and take our attention away from the fleeting and impermanent. Everything will pass in the world but there is an essence within you that is eternal and will never fade. You may call this your Soul, Higher Self, or God/Goddess within. When you know your divine essence you will live more gracefully in the world. True happiness comes from touching the light within. Then you will never again feel alone in the world. Then you will never again feel unloved.

Just as we create happiness from the inside out we also generate meaningful change from the inside out.

1 – Be your unique self

2 – Make decisions from your inner authority

3 – Give up trying to control life

4 – Stop personalising what others think

5 – Allow yourself to make mistakes so [...]]]> Do one of these steps and change your life, do them all and you have revolutionised your life……….

1 – Be your unique self

2 – Make decisions from your inner authority

3 – Give up trying to control life

4 – Stop personalising what others think

5 – Allow yourself to make mistakes so that you can discover what does work

6 – Stop comparing yourself to anyone else

7 – Develop a sense of humour about life’s messy parts

8 – Trust yourself

9 – Be confident that if something happens you have the resources to deal with it

10 – Give yourself time and space to grow and evolve

11 – Love yourself

‘Knowing others is wisdom, knowing yourself is Enlightenment.’
Lao Tsu, Ancient Chinese Philosopher

• The road to success is based on the choices you make. There will be many challenges. Face them one at a time, and you’ll go further and farther than you ever dreamed.

• Learn to see [...]]]> There are only so many ways to grow and the best concept to support growth is positivity:

• The road to success is based on the choices you make. There will be many challenges. Face them one at a time, and you’ll go further and farther than you ever dreamed.

• Learn to see the invisible opportunities where other people only see visible limitations.

• You grow by building on your strengths. By getting better at the things you’re already good at. Become good enough and you become an expert. Experts stand head and shoulders above everybody else.

• Put enthusiasm into your work. Look forward – with excitement – to each new day. Be energetic. Enthusiasm is contagious. It affects your colleagues, your customers, your family and your friends.

• Say YES to your big dreams, and your whole world changes. You succeed when you do what it is you know. – Take action, and the purpose will be revealed.

• Expect and demand the best from yourself and those around you.

• You can be good, pretty good… or GREAT.

….which do you choose?

But did you know that for years people had believed that it was medically impossible – not just difficult, but medically impossible – to run a four minute mile.

Then on 6 May 1954 Roger [...]]]> Most of us know that Roger Bannister was the first man to break the four minute mile barrier.

But did you know that for years people had believed that it was medically impossible – not just difficult, but medically impossible – to run a four minute mile.

Then on 6 May 1954 Roger Bannister made the world believe that it was possible.

And from that day on, something quite amazing happened.

Over the next 18 months the previously impossible was achieved a staggering 52 further times!

There had been no breakthroughs in training. No breakthroughs in running equipment. No breakthroughs in running surfaces.

The only “breakthrough” was that Roger Bannister had forced the world to change its limiting belief – the limiting belief that the four minute mile was impossible.

He, quite literally, forced them to believe that it was possible. And that simple change in mindset transformed the business of athletics by opening up a Pandora’s box of new possibilities.

And it’s exactly the same in business.

Twenty-four hours a day, 365 days a year banking was “impossible”…. until First Direct made it happen.

A vacuum cleaner that never lost its suction was “impossible”… until James Dyson did the housework one day.

A pocket sized music system was “impossible”…. until Sony created the Walkman.

It was “impossible” for a young businessman working from home to become an internationally recognised and respected superstar… until Richard Branson came along.

And it was impossible to get an instant, hassle-free, 100% refund on an unsatisfactory holiday…until Thomson launched their revolutionary holiday guarantee.

The business world is littered with limiting beliefs – impossible products and services, impossible achievements and impossible guarantees – all of which have made enormous amounts of money for those who had the courage to say “I don’t believe that’s impossible”.

What limiting beliefs are holding you (or your company) back?

They always exist. Always.

Probably the single most important contribution all leaders – including you – can make to their businesses or their life is to start identifying and challenging those limiting beliefs.

Because when you do, the rewards can be enormous. Just as they have been for Branson, Dyson, Sony, First Direct and Thomson.

So …..if you want to share in their sort of success, start identifying and challenging those limiting beliefs TODAY.